by Joyce Szili
(Washington, DC area)
Dancing is very much an “in the moment” experience – partner dancing, even more so. The dancers should be concentrating on the music and each other and aware of other dancers on the floor. The follower should be attentive to feeling the lead, the music and making an interpretation of both. The leader should concentrate on feeling the music and his/her partner, proposing the different steps to the follower while doing an artistic interpretation of the music and being alert to the position of the other dancers.
Really, there should be no talking because the mind is occupied in all the other activities as described above. There is no concentration when one is talking, as the intellect follows a conversation.
Chatting while dancing has its place, e.g., catching up with friends whom you only see on the dance floor. But chatting while you’re dancing with a new partner is not a good way to connect and if he or she does not respond to your conversation, then take the hint and “Shut Up and Dance.”